My wife and I keep our beliefs and practices very private because of the nature of where we live and the nature of who we need to interact with. We haven’t had any of our esoteric conversations around our daughter either. We decided not to push her into anything as far as religion and spiritual belief is concerned. The problem is that last night our entire plan when to crap.
My father asked her if she wanted to go into our bedroom and get her tablet (spoiled nerd) and she said she didn’t want to because there was a ghost. We all just looked at each other. He then asked her what she said back as a question: “There’s a ghost in there?” “Yeah. Mama’s tablet.” She then ran off to the living room and stole my wife’s Nook.
My dad doesn’t believe in the same things we do, nor does he even have any idea of the direction our beliefs have gone, but he was even silent for a few moments. I think we all asked each other where she learned that word, and none of us could come up with an answer at all. TV at our house consists almost entirely of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse until she goes down for her nap/sleep.
Obviously she learned the word somewhere, but she used it entirely in context and knew what she was seeing/feeling. At 2 1/2 years old, there isn’t much that can be done to explain what is going on, or even give her anything to do if one gets a bit rowdy with her. Even her mother has tried to suppress her gift for so long that she has a hard time handling things for herself.
We agreed last night to just listen to her when she describes things of that nature, and as she grows older we’ll introduce her into some of the concepts that are involved with the process. We’ll teach her to be proud of who she is, but appropriateness in handling it since it scares the living piss out of other people when you’re different in any way. It scares them worse when you experience things entirely outside of their belief system. Religious groups tend to have a set boundary of where things can go before it’s just too far to fit within the structure. Then they yell ‘Heresy!’ or some other such crap and you’re ostracized.
Despite the freedoms given to us in this country, having different beliefs (especially ones that scare others) can still cause issues within your peers, and we all know that kids are some of the most cruel creatures on the face of the planet. I will have to teach her not to be ashamed of who she is, but that there appropriate times to let people know who you are, and when to just play the game. It sucks that she will have to do that, but sadly that’s the way things work, even in modern America; more so when you live in a small, religious community.
Of course, this could all just the imagination of a child and no big deal, but since she could have inherited this from her mother, it’s worth keeping an eye on.
Chaos is everywhere whether you like it or not.